Day +458 : “He/she is stick!” perception is useful (2)

I am fine today. Continue from yesterday…

After some explanation, my wife would normally understand the situation, but I came to know some cases which were much worse than this whereby the wife simply turned herself into a “private detective” and employed all sort of means to trace the movement of her husband. These include checking the telephone numbers on the telephone bills to see if the husband called any suspected women, tracing the movement of the husband by calling him regularly, checking the husband email or mobile phone messages, and of course a lot of unreasonable questions which resulted in heated debate. This situation will inevitably lead to marriage problem if the husband does not know how to handle the situation.

If we encounter a partner who is terribly sensitive (疑神疑鬼、草木皆兵) or behave in such a way beyond our comprehension or tolerance, be remember to consider him or her as a sick person. When we have this perception in mind, we would no longer treat him/her as our enemy or troublemaker, but the one that deservers our loving care and support. We will be more tolerate and gentle when dealing with our partner. In other words, the “He/she is sick” perception will change ourselves rather than our partner, and with this change, our partner might change eventually. This is the principle of changing the situation through changing ourselves first :-)

If we think that it is unfair to do this, then we are as sick as the sick one :-)

See you next post :-)